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In the beginning...

No, I'm not going to start at the beginning of my life, haha. But I do want to share what gave me a final push to start Roses N Retro.

It was a cold and dark night... just kidding. It was actually just a regular, normal week in my life of teeter tottering between positive and negative emotions, being sick of struggling with major depression and trying to be grateful for the (at that time practically non-existent) better days that I wakeup feeling content and ready to live the day to the fullest. But in the better moments of that week I found myself just ready, ready to do something, ready to do it. That IT being my idea to start an online boutique inspired by my love for roses and retro style. Sure, it was a bit scary but I also just remember being completely sure about what I was doing in those moments. Once I came up with the name Roses N Retro I jumped on getting my domain name for my website, started filling out business license forms, etc. You know, the fun stuff, NOT, haha…
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I Choose Compassion

An open letter to all those people making ignorant remarks about suicide:

With all the suicides recently in the news and social media one ignorant comment is one too many and I couldn’t help but come across a few so that of course led me to writing this post. Look, I’m not going to hide that I’ve had suicidal thoughts myself in the past. And although it’s been years I also don’t pretend to be overconfident that I could never have them again. Why do you think I fight so hard to retrain my brain from getting stuck in my negative depression cloud??? Why do I admit consistent psychotherapy helps me even when I’m feeling “pretty good.” Even if I’m not suicidal I do still have my moments where I feel stuck in a nightmare or screwed in a life I can’t get out of because I don’t want to give up but my emotions sometimes get so riled up that I wish I could! But I don’t. And I’ll fight hard to keep trying. BUT I also won’t even begin to assume that what I do is going to work for everyone else o…

The Mystery Blogger Award

I was recently pleasantly super-surprised with a nomination for the Mystery Blogger Award from Lucas and Faith of Red Lips and Rose. The creator of this award is Okoto Enigma’s Blog – thank you for bringing this to the blogging community by the way! “Mystery Blogger Award” is an award for amazing bloggers with ingenious posts. Their blog not only captivates; it inspires and motivates. They are one of the best out there, and they deserve every recognition they get. This award is also for bloggers who find fun and inspiration in blogging, anud they do it with so much love and passion. – Okoto Enigma. The RulesPut the award logo/image on your blog.List the rules.Thank whoever nominated you and provide a link to their blog.Mention the creator of the award and provide a link as well.Tell your readers 3 things about yourself.Answer the questions you were asked.Nominate 10-20 people & notify.Ask your nominees any 5 questions of your choice; with one weird or funny question (specify).Share …

Good signs, Good times

Good signs. Good times. Wish it were that easy, but I have found a home decorating tip that has helped me. Surround yourself with positive words and affirmations. Whether you’re into decor (like me), or even sticky notes, chalkboards, or whiteboards, (whatever works) just do it and invest your time (and/or money) in adding positivity to your life. You’re worth it. Really. Plus every little bit helps! 
I’m personally drawn to rustic wood signs and have way more saved on Etsy that I will ever buy, ha! My wishlist is bigger than my pocketbook. But I do enjoy shopping around online for cool pick me up and positive boost signage. I still have a wish list I hope to get to soon waiting to be bought and used on our bare hallway wall. I figure why not have positive life and love quotes somewhere I’m passing through many, many times on a daily basis?! One of my fave and most useful signs is the one in the pic which I purposefully hung next to the front door so I’d see it on my way out to facing …

Enough is Enough

NOTE BEFORE READING: POTENTIAL TRIGGER WARNING

Let's end the taboo on sexual abuse! I know it's an uncomfortable subject for many but for it to still carry a stigma of silence and shame is just not right. From personal experience I know how healing it can be to just talk about it with someone you trust. To be able to pray about it. To not feel like you have this horrible ugly secret inside of you is a good thing so I'm all for helping to try to remove the subject from the "taboo" list. I feel very strongly about this, so much so that it's something I am not afraid to post about via blog and social media whether personal or business. (I feel the need to add that if you are personally not ready or comfortable with speaking your story, IT'S OKAY. You don't have to now or ever. It's completely your own decision and don't feel that anything is wrong with you no mater what choice you make.)

My mental health and depression struggle is very much tied to…

Switching my brain to rosey thoughts

It takes work for me but I work hard to try to retrain my brain to think positive. I suppose I tend to be someone who sees the glass half empty first. Don't know exactly why but pretty sure it has to do with all the negative I've had to deal with from a very young age (perhaps I'll post more about that at some point but for now I'm staying on topic). Anyhoo, I find that one of my learned tools in my depression warrior arsenal is to distract my brain with something that makes me happy. You'd think that's easy and clear but it takes some bit of thought to choose something that is truly more likely to affect my mood in a positive way.  For instance, I love watching This Is Us but that show makes me emotional and I have cried a good cry after EVERY episode I've watched sooo though I do take time to watch the show I prepare myself to get emotional and let myself work through those feelings afterwards. But that is not a show I should watch if I'm already supe…

My why... to blog or not to blog

I thought long and hard about whether to blog or not. Would I keep it separate from my new business? What would I focus on? What do I want to say to the world? Do I really want to put myself out there? Well, I’ve always lived my life truly believing that if sharing my story will help at least one person then it is definitely worth telling. 

Part of my story is living with and managing my major depression disorder. I’m almost 40 years old (oh my! time flies) and I haven’t give up (even though I’ve had my moments when I felt like it over the years). To me, continuing to fight to see the positive and trying to take things day by day is a huge accomplishment! So, since it is such a big part of my daily life and it does effect my business I decided that yes, I will combine my new biz with my goal to support mental health awareness. Sharing my story of combatting depression and not letting it stop me from pursuing life is a story I want to tell. I sincerely hope that it helps someone out the…